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The desire of doing something starts in the mind long before that actual action occurs. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. (Matthew 15:19-20) However, all sexual desire must be directed only towards the spouse and not to another person, whether they are real or imaginary.

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According to the Bible, God Himself designed the sexual intimacy and implanted it into the desires of the human’s body. Intercourse is a blessing and enjoyment given to us by God. However, the Bible has a strong firm in its teaching that intercourse is to be limited to marriage between a man and a woman, when the two is committed to each other.

The scriptures explains, having an intimacy outside of marriage are totally wrong, this type of act can get a person emotions so heightened that it can break down the defense and allow un Godly desire to manifest.

Because the Scripture did not specifically say, thou shalt not passionately kiss, or thou shalt not engage in pleasurable touching unless married, in order for it to be conflicting to God’s words. Many are overlooking the temptation which could lead to intercourse.

There are many passages that clearly explain this type of behavior. For example, Now flee from youthful lusts, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart (2 Tim. 2:22). This is a warning that flirting with temptation is dangerous to the righteous. The correct response for someone who care about each other and about fulfilling the will of God in there life, is to stay as for away as possible from lustful temptation. This is a command in Scripture.
Passionately kissing and pleasurable touching is sexual and is a part of the sexual relationship of intimacy called foreplay. Talking about the beauty of sexual act and how it can be that very action which protects adultery, According to Proverbs 5:18-20, the writer writes, Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress, And embrace the bosom of a foreigner.
But then, this is interesting, the next couple of scriptures follow with, For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, And He watches all his paths. His own iniquities will capture the wicked, And he will be held with the cords of his sin (Prov. 5:21-22).

I hopped you getting the picture by now, all these fluting and touching is sin apart from the marriage bond. You could try all you want to rationalize and come up with explanation right and wrong and how individual people should behave and avoiding temptation, but God not only sees all we do and think, but He clearly explain that such ridiculous behavior has its consequences.
Don’t you know that foreplay is designed to arouse sexual desire in preparation for intercourse? This type of behavior could get out of hand. Don’t put yourself in the position to wonder why did you sleep with that person and put your relationship in jeopardy. Plus this is to be saved for marriage. Don’t you agree? _______

Here what Jesus said about this, if a man even looks on a woman with a view to fornication, it is the same as committing the act already? Doing this outside of marriage shows that your primary focus is sexual and not a spiritual relationship in which you get to know the other person and are concerned about what is best for them. Here what the scripture said,
Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that, as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you may excel still more. For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. Consequently, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you. (Thessalonians 4:1-8.)

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The Dangers of Sex Before and Outside of Marriage (Pastor Greg Baker)

Simply because something has become more acceptable to society as a whole doesn’t make it either right or without consequences. There are very real dangers that are associated with sex before and outside of marriage. I’m not looking for people to agree or disagree, but rather I’m looking to make some very sound, very logical, very clear presentations of the dangers.

IT IS THE NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF STDS

IT MAKES HAVING A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP MORE DIFFICULT

IT MAKES SEX, AS AN EXPRESSION OF LOVE, EMPTY

IT ROBS YOU OF SELF WORTH

IT WILL HAUNT YOU IN FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS

FOR THE CHRISTIAN

Naturally, God discourages sex before marriage. I read once where someone argued that God never discouraged such a thing, but even a casual reading of the Scriptures will dissuade you from that notion.
Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2 – Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman (sexually). Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Sex, in God’s eyes, is more than a physical act. It is a spiritual experience meant to illustrate to us the joy of being in the presence of the Lord. Interestingly enough, fornication is often depicted as idolatry.

Deuteronomy 31:16 And the LORD said unto Moses, Behold, thou shalt sleep with thy fathers; and this people will rise up, and go a whoring after the gods of the strangers of the land, whither they go to be among them, and will forsake me, and break my covenant which I have made with them.

2 Chronicles 21:11 Moreover he made high places in the mountains of Judah, and caused the inhabitants of Jerusalem to commit fornication, and compelled Judah thereto.

God sees sex as a demonstration of a commitment to one person. Anything else is seen as fornication, whoring, adultery, and other sexual perversions. By keeping our sexual activities limited to one person in the bonds of marriage, we reinforce our own Christian bond and union with Jesus Christ. Marriage itself is compared scripturally to salvation in Jesus Christ
(Ephesians 5:21-33). Marriage is a microcosm, a means by which we understand God better, of the relationship we have between Jesus Christ.

Marriage is a wonderful picture of the security we have in Jesus Christ for salvation. Sex is a wonderful, spiritual, picture of the joy we have in Christ. It is holy, right, and honorable in marriage.

No matter if you are a Christian or not, there are plenty of dangers to experiencing sexual activity outside of the marriage. The dangers are real. They do exist. And they do cause more problems than you’d ever really believe.
Again, if you could sit in my seat and listen to the broken, struggling, and desperate lives that result from this, you’d see why I hold these opinions.

Pastor Greg Baker

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