Thursday, July 28, 2011

IT WILL HAUNT YOU IN FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS (Pastor Greg Baker) Sex before and outside of marriage.

This I can practically guarantee. I don’t have the time to recount the number of marriages that struggle because of some indiscretion before or outside of the marriage. If you had to deal with the problems I have, you’d feel the same way I do about this entire issue.

Regret, depression, anxiety, abortion, nightmares, suspicion, trust issues, child support, adultery, anger, bitterness, rape, health issues, troubled children, rebellious teenagers using the past against the parent, teenage pregnancies, divorce, cancer, Aids, pornography, addictions, birth defects, and many, many more are all issues that I can often trace back to sex before or outside of marriage.

I’ve dealt with all of the above things and more in counseling broken marriages. Almost always, I can trace the root of the issue to sex before or outside of the marriage.

I can’t honestly think of a marriage that hasn’t been haunted by sexual misconduct before the marriage. And there are many examples of this. A woman who was sexually molested or abused as a child will find it difficult to trust men in general and her husband in particular. That’s not her fault, but it is something she will live with. A man that has had sex with many different women struggles to convince his wife that he loves her and only her and he constantly deals with his memories and even dreams. His protestations of love are often viewed as cheap and insufficient.

I could go on and on and on about the problems that are created because of sex before or outside of marriage. Lifelong relationships always suffer as a result.

Pastor Greg Baker

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Wednesday, July 27, 2011

The Dangers of Sex Before and Outside of Marriage (Pastor Greg Baker)

Simply because something has become more acceptable to society as a whole doesn’t make it either right or without consequences. There are very real dangers that are associated with sex before and outside of marriage. I’m not looking for people to agree or disagree, but rather I’m looking to make some very sound, very logical, very clear presentations of the dangers.

IT IS THE NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF STDS

IT MAKES HAVING A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP MORE DIFFICULT

IT MAKES SEX, AS AN EXPRESSION OF LOVE, EMPTY

IT ROBS YOU OF SELF WORTH

IT WILL HAUNT YOU IN FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS

FOR THE CHRISTIAN


Naturally, God discourages sex before marriage. I read once where someone argued that God never discouraged such a thing, but even a casual reading of the Scriptures will dissuade you from that notion.
Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2 – Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman (sexually). Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Sex, in God’s eyes, is more than a physical act. It is a spiritual experience meant to illustrate to us the joy of being in the presence of the Lord. Interestingly enough, fornication is often depicted as idolatry.

Deuteronomy 31:16 And the LORD said unto Moses, Behold, thou shalt sleep with thy fathers; and this people will rise up, and go a whoring after the gods of the strangers of the land, whither they go to be among them, and will forsake me, and break my covenant which I have made with them.

2 Chronicles 21:11 Moreover he made high places in the mountains of Judah, and caused the inhabitants of Jerusalem to commit fornication, and compelled Judah thereto.

God sees sex as a demonstration of a commitment to one person. Anything else is seen as fornication, whoring, adultery, and other sexual perversions. By keeping our sexual activities limited to one person in the bonds of marriage, we reinforce our own Christian bond and union with Jesus Christ. Marriage itself is compared scripturally to salvation in Jesus Christ
(Ephesians 5:21-33). Marriage is a microcosm, a means by which we understand God better, of the relationship we have between Jesus Christ.

Marriage is a wonderful picture of the security we have in Jesus Christ for salvation. Sex is a wonderful, spiritual, picture of the joy we have in Christ. It is holy, right, and honorable in marriage.

No matter if you are a Christian or not, there are plenty of dangers to experiencing sexual activity outside of the marriage. The dangers are real. They do exist. And they do cause more problems than you’d ever really believe.
Again, if you could sit in my seat and listen to the broken, struggling, and desperate lives that result from this, you’d see why I hold these opinions.

Pastor Greg Baker

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Monday, July 25, 2011

“Foreplay: Is it a Sin?”

According to the Bible, God Himself designed the sexual intimacy and implanted it into the desires of the human’s body. Intercourse is a blessing and enjoyment given to us by God. However, the Bible has a strong firm in its teaching that intercourse is to be limited to marriage between a man and a woman, when the two is committed to each other.
The scriptures explains, having an intimacy outside of marriage are totally wrong, this type of act can get a person emotions so heightened that it can break down the defense and allow un Godly desire to manifest. Because the Scripture did not specifically say, thou shalt not passionately kiss, or thou shalt not engage in pleasurable touching unless married, in order for it to be conflicting to God’s words. Many are overlooking the temptation which could lead to intercourse.
There are many passages that clearly explain this type of behavior. For example, Now flee from youthful lusts, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart (2 Tim. 2:22). This is a warning that flirting with temptation is dangerous to the righteous. The correct response for someone who care about each other and about fulfilling the will of God in there life, is to stay as for away as possible from temptation. This is a command in Scripture.
Passionately kissing and pleasurable touching is sexual and is a part of the sexual relationship of intimacy called foreplay. Talking about the beauty of sexual act and how it can be that very action which protects adultery, According to Proverbs 5:18-20, the writer writes, Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress, And embrace the bosom of a foreigner.
But then, this is interesting, the next couple of scriptures follow with, For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, And He watches all his paths. His own iniquities will capture the wicked, And he will be held with the cords of his sin (Prov. 5:21-22).
I hopped you getting the picture by now, all these fluting and touching is sin apart from the marriage bond. You could try all you want to rationalize and come up with explanation right and wrong and how individual people should behave and avoiding temptation, but God not only sees all we do and think, but He clearly explain that such ridiculous behavior has its consequences.
Don’t you know that foreplay is designed to arouse sexual desire in preparation for intercourse? This type of behavior could get out of hand. Don’t put yourself in the position to wonder why did you sleep with that person and put your relationship in jeopardy. Plus this is to be saved for marriage. Don’t you agree? _______
Here what Jesus said about this, if a man even looks on a woman with a view to fornication, it is the same as committing the act already? Doing this outside of marriage shows that your primary focus is sexual and not a spiritual relationship in which you get to know the other person and are concerned about what is best for them. And the scripture said,
Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that, as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you may excel still more. For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. 8 Consequently, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you. (Thessalonians 4:1-8.)
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Saturday, July 23, 2011

DO YOU NEED "INTERCOURSE" TO BE COMPLETE?

Some people believe that their life is lacking or incomplete because of the absence of being sexually involved.

And there are some that felt God has given them so many blessings in some areas, but when it comes to blessing them with their mate, God has somehow forgotten or forsaken them. Thus, the struggle to hold on being abstinent, intensify.

For this reason, many respond hastily by going out and getting somebody, anybody, just to say they have someone to call their own. And when they have “INTERCOURSE” then they wonder, what I have done.

There was no engagement ring, no commitment, and then the question:

Do I really know the person I just sleep with?


Believers must realize that your life is complete, right now, even in the absence of a sexual relationship.

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Monday, July 11, 2011

Many people say that the man is the one who initiates this desire in wanting to take the relationship to another level in the form of having intercourse, but is this true, what do you think, Is this true or not. (Yes____ No____)

When you involved with someone of the opposite sex, in a dating relationship, and feelings growing stronger and stronger to the point of unbearable, the two involved come to a decision to prove their sincere love for one another. Many people say that the man is the one who initiates this desire in wanting to take the relationship to another level in the form of having intercourse, but is this true, what do you think, Is this true or not. (Yes____ No____)

If a modern day Boaz comes knocking on your door seeking your hand in marriage, would you? I am not saying it’s a wise thing that you spend forever getting to know a person before accepting a proposal, but what if you know without a shadow of dough he was the right person. How about the beautiful Bathsheba, she was beautiful enough to seduce Solomon the wisest man in the Bible. Would you say (yes ____ No ___)


One reason so many marriages are floundering is because the husbands have not prepared themselves spiritually for their task. Some fellows could not think about anything but sex during their relationship. And if it wasn’t sex, it was cars or sports. They spent little or no time studying the Word, memorizing it, discovering how it applied to their lives, and learning from it what their responsibilities as Christian husbands and fathers would be. The Lord was not part of their daily living.

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Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Sexual Intercourse, doing it the correct way: Do you know how to?

He always knows the right words to say at the right moment to get me all rows up, as if I was not ready already.


Suddenly there was a knock at the door, he said relax honey, I will get it. It was room service he ordered.


Champaign on ice with fruits and French vanilla ice- cream, he knows I love French vanilla.


We made a toasted to new beginning and vow to stay together until death do us path.


He them begin to feed me fruits and I do likewise while we drink Champaign. What a site to see, lovers eating ice-cream in the midnight hour with the light down low.

I slowly begin to take part of my lingerie off and lie slowly on the bed, he then draw close to me and begin to kiss me in a romantic way. If my blood was not running, it was running now.


We kissed and cursed while rolling around on the bed for a while. He looks into my eyes and rolls his finger through my long black hair. I felt like I was zap with a laser when he touches me.

It finally happened, penetration has occurred, Awa, what a feeling

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